Self love and boundaries

When we love ourselves we have healthy boundaries.

Self Care is a popular catch phrase right now and rightly so. It is vitally important because in this busy world we have a never ending to do list and self – care is important to feeling fully renewed.

Self care is basically the act of taking care of ourselves; physically and mentally. This means different things for different people.
Time with friends, Eating well, Getting enough sleep, Yoga, Medication , Creative pursuits… you get the drift .

I wrote about self care in a previous post, here

Self love on the other hand is about cultivating gratitude and acceptance towards self. While we can cultivate self love through self care, at the end of the day we must learn to completely love and accept ourselves.  

Healthy boundaries

When we love ourselves we have healthy boundaries  

“We are often not comfortable about setting boundaries because we are more concerned about what people will think, we don’t want to disappoint any one, we want everyone to like us and boundaries are not easy.”

Brene Brown

True self love is knowing what is our role/job and what is the job of others. Protecting others from pain or discomfort sucks energy from us and is often at the cost of our own time, activities, energy, preferences. Then we get resentful, angry, tired and have a martyr mentality.  

Doing for others leaks your power and deprives them of the opportunity to be self sufficient, grow and care for their own needs.

Communication.

Lack of communication can lead to simple misunderstandings blowing way open. We need to express ourselves simply and clearly when communicating our boundaries to others

Communication reinforces self love because it ensures we are strong enough to speak our piece. ( I find this take practice!)

I always say you should not do for another adult what they are capable of doing themselves.    

Where are you leaking your power to save others?

How can you let others find their own strength and power?

Brene Brown

Footnote: I am loving reading and listening to the work of Brene Brown right now. At the risk of going all Molly Meldrum on you……..do yourself a favour and check out her Ted Talk on vulnerability

Mental health in the workplace

What are your self care strategies in the workplace?

Mental health in the workplace.

Did you know that November 22nd was “ Go Home on Time Day”?  I love this. There is a day for everything these days!

Jokes aside, Go home on time day was a great excuse to not only leave when you’re supposed to but to also have a think about what we can do along with  managers and the workplace to get out the door on time consistently .

Deadlines or the occasional day with competing demands can sometimes mean we can’t stick to our normal working hours. I do not mind this on the odd occasion. However, it’s when these long hours become the norm rather than the exception that it can negatively impact our health.

I recently had 3 weeks off work from a relentless virus. I initially returned too early causing a setback and had to be very firm with myself, being still, minimising interactions and  implementing all self care strategies.

This self imposed rest and quiet time provided me a wonderful opportunity to reflect. And reflect I did: on my return to midwifery, on my role, and my vision and goals for the workplace. On life and why I haven’t blogged for 6 months.

My reflections on mental health in the workplace

I reflected that I have managed very well to develop a sound work life balance. However, some of my old habits at work have been creeping in. Coffee and lunch breaks at my desk, going home late, checking emails at home.

When I did return to work last week I set myself a goal to continue not only my home self care but also self care strategies in the workplace.

I don’t believe in coincidences. Rather I believe everything happens for a reason.

Femidist Mental HealthThis Beyond Blue post on Facebook about mental health in the workplace came at a perfect time for me. I had just returned to work following my illness and its reminders were very important.

 

I encourage my staff members to take breaks, to get home on time and I always try to meet their roster requirements to have a great work/life balance.

Now I have asked them to remind ME  to take my breaks! Having experienced workplace stress burnout and compassion fatigue I place high priority on mental health in the workplace.

Here are my top 10 strategies to maintain mental health at work:
  • Go home on time
  • Take my breaks
  • Walk outside
  • Delegate tasks to others
  • Do not read work emails at home
  • Set realistic deadlines
  • Ask for help when I need it
  • Diffuse essential oils to motivate or chill the mood
  • Eat properly
  • Drink my water

For some great strategies on how to manage your mental health at work, visit Heads Up: http://bb.org.au/2jHDm34

References and link

Beyond Blue

Heads Up

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