Self love and boundaries

When we love ourselves we have healthy boundaries.

Self Care is a popular catch phrase right now and rightly so. It is vitally important because in this busy world we have a never ending to do list and self – care is important to feeling fully renewed.

Self care is basically the act of taking care of ourselves; physically and mentally. This means different things for different people.
Time with friends, Eating well, Getting enough sleep, Yoga, Medication , Creative pursuits… you get the drift .

I wrote about self care in a previous post, here

Self love on the other hand is about cultivating gratitude and acceptance towards self. While we can cultivate self love through self care, at the end of the day we must learn to completely love and accept ourselves.  

Healthy boundaries

When we love ourselves we have healthy boundaries  

“We are often not comfortable about setting boundaries because we are more concerned about what people will think, we don’t want to disappoint any one, we want everyone to like us and boundaries are not easy.”

Brene Brown

True self love is knowing what is our role/job and what is the job of others. Protecting others from pain or discomfort sucks energy from us and is often at the cost of our own time, activities, energy, preferences. Then we get resentful, angry, tired and have a martyr mentality.  

Doing for others leaks your power and deprives them of the opportunity to be self sufficient, grow and care for their own needs.

Communication.

Lack of communication can lead to simple misunderstandings blowing way open. We need to express ourselves simply and clearly when communicating our boundaries to others

Communication reinforces self love because it ensures we are strong enough to speak our piece. ( I find this take practice!)

I always say you should not do for another adult what they are capable of doing themselves.    

Where are you leaking your power to save others?

How can you let others find their own strength and power?

Brene Brown

Footnote: I am loving reading and listening to the work of Brene Brown right now. At the risk of going all Molly Meldrum on you……..do yourself a favour and check out her Ted Talk on vulnerability