Solitude: The ultimate indulgence in a busy world

Solitude brings a state of balance to catch up from a hyper connected society.

Solitude: The ultimate indulgence in a busy world.

My need for solitude is not just a preference but critical to my health and happiness. Solitude is the state of being alone but certainly not being lonely.

Solitude to balance the hyper connectivity of life

Solitude for me brings a state of balance to catch up from what I see as a hyper connected society. The world is so fast and busy we need ways to release the pressure of doing things and going places. We live in a world where millions of mouths talk too much with very little to say. The news is negative and toxic, employers demand our energy to a timetable and mobile phones keep us permanently in touch.

I have very few opportunities in my life to truly be alone. A few minutes or hours stolen here and there is nice and allows me to recharge enough to get back to “it”, whatever it may be but a true extended period of solitude has not been mine for some time.

This weekend I have had the blessed opportunity to spend 48 hours alone in the house with time for reflection, peace and quiet. I do not feel lonely, rather the solitude provides me the perfect freedom to do whatever I want with, silence, calm and space.

So what to do with this freedom?

I found myself automatically walking around picking up things, tidying and started seeing grimy floors and the dirty bench tops. Groan.

Rod and I have recently had some robust discussions about housework, meaning his lack of contribution to it. He has gone for the weekend to spend quality time with his sons and I looked around, yet again left as custodian of the housework.  Rather than spend my day off cleaning and ruining this solitude I decided to give myself a break. I got onto facebook and hired someone to come in and clean while I retreated to my den and sewed! It was bliss. The two hours flew by and when I came out the house was clean and fresh and I was calm and rested.

With the house was warm and clean I relaxed and I really could do whatever I wanted. The TV stayed off with all it bad news and hyper stimulating advertising.

A solitude delight

I cooked a delicious nutritious meal for one and spent the evening reading and researching topics of interest. Bindi dog and Sammie my black cat lazed around in front of the fire and I felt beautifully relaxed.

doTERRA for FemidistI am completely in love with doTERRA essential oils right now and at about 8pm I put on my new diffuser with a dreamy blend of essential oils,read some more in bed, turning the light off at about 10pm.

I woke  to see light streaming into my room. Imagine my surprise and delight when I discovered it was 8 am. That’s ten hours sleep folks! Ten hours of deep uninterrupted blissful sleep.

 

My dreamy sleep blend
  • doTERRA Sleep blendLavender
  • Wild Orange
  • Vetiver
  • Frankincense

I Quit Sugar- Week 6

My mood was low and it took an effort to be nice to people, even the ones I like!

I Quit Sugar – Week 6

I haven’t posted for a couple of weeks due to there only being seven days in the week. This post is a catch up for week five and week six of my I Quit Sugar program

I think I would like an extra day at least, just to write, sew and rest. Attending to those self care strategies has been so important to my physical and mental health and now I find myself a teeny bit resentful they have slipped.

Rather than sook and complain about it, I have hidden myself in my den and sewn for a few hours and hey presto; the jumbled up thoughts have sorted themselves out a bit.

While sewing, I have been thinking a lot this morning about professional accountability and professional conduct. My professional integrity is something I value highly and I can safely say I have never been considered a “bag dropper”.

What’s a bag dropper? I hear you ask.

A bag dropper is someone, in my profession a nurse or midwife, who comes to work, dumps their bag, attends to the shift in a disengaged, negative way, grabs their bag at the end of the shift and heads off. Bag droppers tend to complain about their managers or exec, are passive aggressive, need repeated prompts to do their work and certainly cannot be relied upon to go the extra mile, help out their colleagues, take on a portfolio or do any extra professional development.

We all have bad days. Sometimes we have bad weeks. I am quite happy to acknowledge this and make allowances for variations in people’s level of professionalism. I have had days in my professional career where I have not been an engaged employee. However, it’s a fixed bagged dropping attitude I don’t have much tolerance for.

I know last year I needed to move on from my role when my health and personal issues interfered with my ability to be a productive employee. Remember my post called Quitting as an elite for of self care  I will not allow myself to become unprofessional.

Being a Midwife Again

I did promise you I would not write about my current workplace but will say that my move back to Midwifery has been a good one so far.

Anyway, back to sugar. It is 6 weeks since I quit!

As the I Quit Sugar team suggest, week one was quite easy, a novelty and an interesting challenge. I did not really have any symptoms of headache etc because I had gradually cut table sugar out of my cooking for a week or so before. Week 2- 5 were a lot harder. My main symptom was irritability. My mood was low and it took an effort to be nice to people, even the ones I like!

I did not blog last week (week 5) but will say things did begin to stabilise. While I find I don’t physically miss sugar but the emotional addiction remains. Waiting for my coffee I gaze at the cake and they look great and yes I would like one please. I love lollies and know the deep internal satisfaction my tummy and brain would get as the sugar hits the blood stream. However, my wonderful stubborn Taurean personality has helped me stay strong and firm.

On two separate occasions I have had a nip of Baileys on ice with Rod in the evening. I think one was week 3 and one in week 4. Both times I felt ill and really did not enjoy it. In week 5 we went away with a group of friends and each evening for 4 nights I had 2 G&T’s which I did thoroughly enjoy.

Apart from those few drinks I have not wavered, not one bit. Now at the end of week 6 I seem to be used being sugar free. I have reintroduced fruit. and I have 1 serve most days and sometimes 2. Without refined sugar, and food with heaps of added sugar, my body can handle the natural fructose in fruit.

Menu planning

Life on any sort of changed diet works so much better with menu planning. For me if I am not prepared with snacks and meals for the day ahead I am more likely to grab whatever I can and that is a danger zone.

If I start work before my stomach is ready to have breakfast I have a portion of healthy fruit free muesli in my bag ready. That way when I can take a quick breakfast break I have a healthy option ready to go. Previously a coffee scroll with 40.1gms (10 teaspoons) of sugar would have been my breakfast substitute. Ouch.

My snacks throughout the working day include granola, using the yummy I Quit Sugar version from Sarah Wilson’s cookbook, yogurt and sometimes a piece of fruit.

If I am hungry with breakfast and these snacks I will have a salad, sandwich, soup or leftovers for lunch but it depends on what’s happening and the timetable at work.

I did not quit coffee

While this all sounds terribly healthy remember this is my I Quit Sugar Program NOT the I Quit Coffee program. That my friend is unlikely to happen anytime soon! So added to my health diet is 3-4 cafe lattes per day. This I justify as a contribution to my protein intake at 8gm per latte and a contribution to the safety and sanity of my friends, family and work colleagues.

I Quit Sugar: Not Coffee

Coffee is the liquid hug for my brain which on days off I use for recreational purposes and work days for medicinal purposes.

 

 

 

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